You know you do it.
Every time you spy another with great hair, killer style, luxury handbags, always traveling, hitting up the coolest spots, surrounded by fabulous people with a hot career that’s well on the rise… Admit it. You’re a little jealous. Green-eyed even. Lusting after what you don’t have and wishing, wanting what others seem to radiate.
I’m here to tell you those envious emotions are actually reactive blessings in disguise.
Don’t believe me?
Here’s how I know…
Passing judgment, whether good or bad, can motivate you to change something about your own life that doesn’t measure up. If here’s a better player on the sports team you’ve just joined, comparing yourself to that person may step up your game. On the flip side, if you compare yourself to a player with less skills than you, it can boost your confidence and keep the momentum going to play better, and ultimately become the BEST that you can be.
Desire Creates the Power
Social media is NOT real. (Repeat to self)
It’s a beautifully flawed and fictional world where people plunge right into to escape their own realities. Which is why it’s such an inspiring and aspiring place to be. I can’t tell you how many countless hours I spend lost in LaLaLand aka Instagram just ogling beautiful people, their beautiful lives, and the beautiful landscape of our world.
But I believe that’s precisely why social media is so addicting! Social comparison is innately a human behavior. We ALL do it.
Especially when confronted with so many stimulants from our social media feeds, our immediate natural response is either “I want it!” or “Eh, I’ll pass.” Either way, the burning desire creates the power to bring that emotion to life.
Is “Comparison the Thief of Joy?”
Theodore Roosevelt once said that “comparison is the thief of joy” but what he failed to mention was that comparison can quickly catapult you to complete bliss if used correctly. Social comparison is simply in our human nature guys. We can’t help but compare
ourselves to others. The minute you start feeling bad and less worthy is when you know you’re not doing it correctly.
Here’s a very simple rule I learned when studying Psychology in my undergrad studies:
Seek favorable comparisons if you want to feel happier.
Seek unfavorable comparisons if you want to push yourself harder.
In other words, the silver medalist will compare himself to the bronze medalist and feel happier knowing he placed 2nd instead of 3rd. On the flip side, in order to push himself to be better, the silver medalist would compare himself to the gold medalist and fuel that fire inside for a future win.
You see the distinction?
SHOP THE LOOK
Top: c/o Zaful
Bottom: Paige Denim
Shoes: Dolce Vita (old, similar HERE and HERE)
Sunnies: Gucci (old, similar HERE and HERE)
You simply crave the life you don’t have. BUT that doesn’t mean you can’t have it! It’s all within reach guys; it’s all about wanting it bad enough to get up and MAKE IT HAPPEN!!
So go ahead and lust a little, it’s good for you to keep wanting more.
Remember that anything and everything worth having is worth fighting for.
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